Many of us hold on to things that do not serve us well, fearful that if we let them go we will regret having lost them. I’m hear to tell you that letting go of what is no longer serving you in a positive way is one of the most freeing things you can do, as it creates space for new and better things to enter into your life. When your energy is diverted to things that drain you and deplete your happiness, you are essentially diminishing your potential.
You have heard numerous times in various ways that the quality of your life is the sum total of the five people you spend the most time with (including yourself, which will be addressed). Therefore, why would you want to spend the majority of your time with people who are negative, who are takers of your generosity, who do not support you or your dreams?
It is important to understand that not every relationship is meant to last forever. Some come with their own expiration dates and will only be a paragraph in your life story, while others will receive special acknowledgments in your book of life. When evaluating your relationships ask yourself:
Does this person…
Elevate me? Or
Take from and
Extinguish my dreams?
Evaluating your relationships is necessary for your overall well being and will help you decide whether it’s time to delete one (or at least let it fade as you hang out with people less frequently) or strengthen the relationship (foster the ones that energize, support and love you).
Of the people you spend the most time with, you are number one, and your relationship with yourself is a result of the quality of your thoughts. Do they serve to uplift and support you and are worth strengthening? Or do they serve to belittle and hold you back and are in need of elimination? When evaluating your thoughts ask yourself:
Is this thought…
The quality of your thoughts impacts your overall happiness. Taking time to evaluate the common thoughts you have and identifying those that could use a makeover will help to cultivate a more supportive mindset.
Use the DELETE acronym to do some mindful cleaning, removing the negative clutter, creating space for new things to blossom in your life.